Love Yourself – Don’t Be a Placeholder – S2E5

Relationships are the connections one has with others. And although there are several types of relationships—romantic relationships can be tricky. In other words, those connections are hard enough as it is when both people are on the same page. But if they are not, it makes navigating through the issues of life that much more difficult. 

Do you feel loved, cherished, and respected? 

Photo of the words Love Yourself with long-stem roses placed on all sides but the left side.

And for that reason, loving yourself is so important. Because, when you truly love yourself, you are more aware of how that relationship affects you. For instance, how does the relationship make you feel? That is all the more crucial when planning a future with someone. 

If you are not receiving what you need and want from the relationship it’s time to examine that. In Ephesians 4:2 New Living Translation it speaks on how we should be with others, “Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.”  

Next, 1 Peter 4:8 New International Version says, “Above all, love each other deeply…” In fact, if you are doing those things and your partner is not, you owe it to yourself to consider that. So, if you don’t feel loved, cherished, or respected then you must rethink the relationship. Do it for your own sanity. Because, you want the love you and your partner share, to be at the least–mutual.  

Don’t be “The Placeholder”  

Photo of a bride and groom
He marries “The One.”
Photo by Olivia Bauso on Unsplash

Have you heard of or know a couple who had kids, a home, and a couple of vehicles to then split up? Even after they were together for three, five, or 10 plus years in a non-marital relationship. To add insult to injury, the man meets another woman and marries her within three months of meeting her. What is that? How does that happen? Why didn’t he marry the mother of his children? Why did he waste her time? Well–she wasn’t “The One,” she was “The Placeholder.”    

So, are you or someone you know is in a long-term relationship? And has it evaded marriage? Well, this podcast episode is for you. Join Lady V and me as we discuss the “The Placeholder,” “The One,” and the importance of loving yourself. 

Previous episodes you may enjoy 

Faith Through the Storm – S2E1 

The Divine Delays in Life – S2E2 

Set Free from Abuse – S2E3 

Christianity Misunderstood–Understanding Grace – S1E9 

Wisdom — A God-listening Heart – S1E5 

What is Love and the Role God Plays in It? – S1E1 

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